First of all, remember that if you plant purity today, you will reap a rich harvest, free from shame and guilt. (And if you’re not a committed disciple, why aren’t you? (This assumes that you yourself are a growing Christian.) 4. When we judge people by their appearances, often we turn out to be dead wrong—and meanwhile we may have made foolish choices. Realize Christ is watching and is with you all evening—wherever you go and whatever you do. He is with you because He’s omnipresent, but as a believer He is with you in a very special way: you are His holy temple (1 Corinthians ). Realize where you go and who you go with will influence your sexual desires.
If you do choose to date, the following guidelines can help you maintain a walk with God and guard your purity. “Do not be misled: ‘Bad company corrupts good character’” (I Corinthians ). Realize your date is your brother or sister in Christ—not your “lover.” “Treat older women as mothers, and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity” (1 Timothy 5:2).
Until we had gone over these principles together (my wife and I, our daughter and the boy) and made sure there was complete agreement, we didn’t allow a dating relationship to begin.
We found that this was a great help not only to our daughters but also to the young men who wanted to date them.
(What follows is an abridged version of “Guidelines for Protecting Purity in Dating,” available at “Guidelines for Sexual Purity.”) 2. A rule of thumb is, don’t do anything physically you wouldn’t do with your brother or sister.
There are many contexts in which to do evangelism—dating isn’t one of them. If you’re a committed disciple, only date committed disciples.