I am completely truthful and upfront, as I would want the woman to be truthful and upfront with me.We are inundated with talk-show wisdom about being open and honest in our communication with the opposite sex. I don't consider myself mean-spirited or a "player". An enjoyable evening with a lovely woman does not include her in tears stating, "I thought you really cared about me." That is why I tell her on the first date, "I'm not looking for a serious relationship."Yes, it is true, that we may have been seeing each other on a regular basis for the past 6 months or that we went to the Catskills for the weekend, but I'm still not looking for a serious relationship.However, why does honest communication go right out the window when I say, "I'm not looking for a serious relationship," and my date hears "I'm not looking for a serious relationship right now, but after several dates, that will change."That is not what I said! If I were, I would not have said those fateful words to begin with.
It’s true that being overly available can seem desperate or unattractive, but the last thing you want to do is play dating games.
Most of us have experienced a serious relationship by accident, usually when we really like the person we’re dating and it just naturally develops into something more.
If you’re struggling with this, here’s a short list to help you go from a casual date to a serious mate (so lame, I know).
I thought I was a nerd but Meyers & Briggs shows that I'm a care giver.
Sometimes I think this is an unfortunate trait to have because you put others before yourself. Had a really bad break up in my marriage of 29 years.